Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.
This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.
I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.
I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.
As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am."
— excerpt from “FYI, I Cannot “Demand” Respect From Men so Stop Telling Me That!" @ One Black Girl. Many Words. (via fajazo)
*watches an obscure 10 min video on Syria from some obscure conspiracy YouTube channel* wow now I know what’s REALLY going on in Syria
A couple reading the Holy Quran on 19th night of Ramadan. Tehran, Iran
Spring Collections Dian Pelangi - Koleksi terbaru dian pelangi yang akan diluncurkan dalam waktu dekat ini, segera dapatkan produk dian pelangi yang terjamin keasliannya di butik-butik resmi dian pelangi terdekat di kota anda.
I would totally buy one of these amazing pieces of art by Homa Arkani.
First row: Untitled - 2010 (Oil on canvas - 100 x 200 cm)
Second row: The clock - 2010 (Oil on canvas - 100 x 100 cm)
Third row Left: Lady Gaga - 2012 (Oil on Canvas - 100 x 70 cm)
Third row Right: Free - 2010 (Oil on Canvas - 100 x 200 cm)
Fourth row: Good words - 2014 (Oil on Canvas - 90 x 90 cm)
The last one: Girls and numbers - 2012 (oil on canvas - 90 x 180 cm)
Posted by The Tehran Times
Female soldiers from the Mexican Revolution, (1910 - 1920)
to barooni to barooni, to aftabi to aftabi